There is a saying that "you
never get a second chance to make a good first impression." With
that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great
impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on
dating success and making an impression that will last.
1. Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the doors first,
pull her chair, and be polite to her along with the people around
you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady
she will think you are fantastic.
2. Take a Bath or Shower
One of the worst things you could do when going out on a date
(especially if it is your first date) is to turn up unshaven,
looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species
and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you
would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a
mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days. It doesnít
cost anything to take a bath and to make an effort to look and
smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor are an instant turn
off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time even
if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she wonít be able
to see beyond your appearance.
3. Arrive on Time
Whatever you do, donít turn up late. Turning up late will send out
all the wrong impressions. At first she may think she's been stood
up, but after arriving late her opinion will change to you being
unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on time. If you
are picking her up from her home then it is advisable to turn up
five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might catch
her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes
early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
4. Give Her a Thoughtful Gift
A woman feels special when the man she is with gives her a
thoughtful gift. What is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know
some things about a woman before a first date that came from phone
conversations, emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an
appropriate date gift. For example, let's say that the woman
really likes golf. There are companies that make chocolate golf
sets - a miniature chocolate club with a chocolate tee and
chocolate golf ball. This would make a great first date gift. For
a generic thoughtful gift, buy a chocolate rose. That's always
appropriate without being overboard.
5. Compliment Her
The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you
even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date,
but do not go over board (3-4 for the night should be more than
enough). A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and
to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and
observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But
remember again not to go overboard. More than four compliments may
make you appear fake and not real.
6. Listen to Her and Ask Questions
Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk
about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask
her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say.
A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in
hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her
questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for the Conversation
The last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to
talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know
about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will
not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically
have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no
idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships
or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and
conversation fully on her.
8. Pay for the Date
It's virtually always appropriate for a gentleman to offer to pay
for the date. When a man takes it upon himself to pay for the
date, he is displaying that old act of "chivalry" that is missing
from many men these days. However, some women feel more
comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on this, then don't
resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her know before
the date that you plan on paying for it.
9. The Goodnight Kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a first date, while others may
be disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy
answer to this question. Body language and chemistry throughout
the night is key in the decision you make. If it feels right, then
you may want to consider making the move. If it doesn't feel right
then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. I'll Call You
Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it and intend on
seeing her again. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her you
will call her if you are not interested and have no plans to call
her. In this case, when saying goodbye, just say, "It was nice
meeting you" and wish her luck. Or you could just say good night,
smile and walk a way. But if you do like her and are interested,
then you must let her know.